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    10 Mistakes Men Make with Women

    David Dangelo

    MISTAKE 1: Being
    Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"

    Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

    Of course you have.

    Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

    What's going on here?

    It's actually very simple...

    Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

    And guess what?

    Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

    And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

    I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

    Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

    MISTAKE 2: Trying To
    "Convince Her To Like You"

    What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

    Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

    Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

    Never, ever, EVER.

    You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

    Think about it.

    If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

    But we all do it.

    When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

    Bad idea. One that will never work.

    MISTAKE 3: Looking To Her
    For Approval Or Permission

    In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

    Another HORRIBLE idea.

    Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

    Don't get me wrong here.

    You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

    But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

    You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

    Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

    MISTAKE 4: Trying To "Buy" Her
    Affection With Food And Gifts

    How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

    If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

    Well guess what?

    It's only NATURAL when this happens...

    That's right, I said NATURAL.

    When you do these things, you send a clear message:
    "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

    Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

    MISTAKE 5: Sharing
    "How You Feel" Too Early In
    The Relationship With Her

    Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

    Attractive women are rare.

    And they get a LOT of attention from men.

    Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

    An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

    And guess what?

    Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

    That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

    They know what to expect.

    And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

    This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

    Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

    There's a much better way...

    MISTAKE 6: Not "Getting" How
    Attraction Works For Women

    Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

    You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

    When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

    But does the same apply for women?

    Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

    Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

    Think about it.

    Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

    If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

    But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

    And ANY guy can learn how...

    MISTAKE 7: Thinking That It
    Takes Money And Looks

    One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

    And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

    But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

    There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

    And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

    YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

    Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

    MISTAKE 8: Giving Away
    All Of Your Power To Women

    Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

    Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

    Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

    Another bad idea...

    Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

    MISTAKE 9: Not Knowing
    EXACTLY What To Do In Each
    Type Of Situation With Women

    Now I'm going to blow your mind...

    A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

    Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

    I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

    And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

    And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

    Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

    If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

    And you KNOW it.

    It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

    MISTAKE 10: Not Getting HELP

    This is the biggest mistake of all.

    This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

    I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.

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    There's only one mistake men make , they think "they're" choosing the woman , they aren't , the woman ALWAYS chooses you , you make think you are , but that's because she's letting you think so...........they're the "alpha dog" !
    Nothing gold can stay...............

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    Quote Originally Posted by Bringthetruth
    David Dangelo

    MISTAKE 1: Being
    Too Much Of A "Nice Guy"

    Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to "nice" guys?

    Of course you have.

    Just like me, I'm sure you've had attractive female friends that always seemed to date "jerks"... but for some reason they were never romantically interested in YOU.

    What's going on here?

    It's actually very simple...

    Women don't base their choices of men on how "nice" a guy is. They choose the men they do because they feel a powerful GUT LEVEL ATTRACTION for them.

    And guess what?

    Being nice doesn't make a woman FEEL that powerful ATTRACTION.

    And being NICE doesn't make a woman CHOOSE you.

    I realize that this doesn't make a lot of logical sense, and it's hard to ACCEPT... but GET OVER IT.

    Until you accept this FACT and begin to act on it, you'll NEVER have the success with women that you want.

    MISTAKE 2: Trying To
    "Convince Her To Like You"

    What do most guys do when they meet a woman that they REALLY like... but she's just not interested?

    Right! They try to "convince" the woman to feel differently.

    Well, I have news for you... YOU WILL NEVER CHANGE HOW A WOMAN "FEELS" WHEN IT COMES TO ATTRACTION!

    Never, ever, EVER.

    You cannot CONVINCE a woman to feel differently about you with "logic and reasoning".

    Think about it.

    If a woman doesn't "feel it" for you, how in the world do you expect to change that FEELING by being "reasonable" with her?

    But we all do it.

    When a woman just isn't interested, we beg, plead, chase, and do our best to change her mind.

    Bad idea. One that will never work.

    MISTAKE 3: Looking To Her
    For Approval Or Permission

    In our desire to please women (which we mistakenly think will make them like us), us guys are always doing things to get a woman's "approval" or "permission".

    Another HORRIBLE idea.

    Women are NEVER attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them... EVER.

    Don't get me wrong here.

    You don't have to treat women BADLY for them to like you.

    But if you think that treating a woman well means "always getting her approval and permission for things", think again.

    You will never succeed by looking for approval. Women actually get ANNOYED at men who seek their approval.

    Doubt me? Just ask any attractive woman if Wussy guys who chase her around and want her approval annoy her...

    MISTAKE 4: Trying To "Buy" Her
    Affection With Food And Gifts

    How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers, and had her REJECT you for someone who didn't treat her even HALF as well as you did?

    If you're like me, then you've had it happen a LOT.

    Well guess what?

    It's only NATURAL when this happens...

    That's right, I said NATURAL.

    When you do these things, you send a clear message:
    "I don't think you'll like me for who I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection".

    Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity, and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, I said that women see this as MANIPULATION.

    MISTAKE 5: Sharing
    "How You Feel" Too Early In
    The Relationship With Her

    Another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women is sharing how they "feel" too early on.

    Attractive women are rare.

    And they get a LOT of attention from men.

    Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another ALL THE TIME.

    An attractive woman is often approached several times a DAY by men who are interested. This translate into dozens of times per week, and often HUNDREDS of times per month.

    And guess what?

    Attractive women have usually dated a LOT of men.

    That's right. They have EXPERIENCE.

    They know what to expect.

    And one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything is a guy who starts saying "You know, I really, REALLY like you" after one or two dates.

    This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves.

    Don't do it. Lean back. Relax.

    There's a much better way...

    MISTAKE 6: Not "Getting" How
    Attraction Works For Women

    Women are VERY different from men when it comes to ATTRACTION.

    You need to accept this fact, and deal with it.

    When a man sees a beautiful, young, sexy woman, he INSTANTLY feels a sexual attraction.

    But does the same apply for women?

    Well, after studying this topic for over five full years now, I can tell you that women usually have their "attraction mechanisms" triggered by things OTHER than looks.

    Have you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with beautiful women than the other way around?

    Think about it.

    Women are more attracted to certain qualities in men... and they're attracted to the way a man makes them FEEL than they are to looks alone.

    If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

    But it's not an accident. You have to LEARN how to do this.

    And ANY guy can learn how...

    MISTAKE 7: Thinking That It
    Takes Money And Looks

    One of the most common mistakes that guys make is giving up before they've even gotten started... because they think that attractive women are only interested in men who have looks and money... or guys who are a certain height... or guys who are a certain age.

    And sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things.

    But MOST women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks.

    There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet...

    And if you learn what they are and how to use them, YOU can be one of these guys.

    YOU DO NOT have to "settle" for a woman just because you aren't rich, tall, or handsome.

    Let me say this again: If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind of powerful sexual attraction to you that YOU feel when you see a hot, sexy young woman.

    MISTAKE 8: Giving Away
    All Of Your Power To Women

    Earlier I mentioned that it's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission.

    Well, another similar tactic that a lot of guys use is GIVING AWAY THEIR POWER to women.

    Said differently, guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman wants.

    Another bad idea...

    Women are NEVER attracted to men that they can walk all over... Women aren't attracted to Wussies!

    MISTAKE 9: Not Knowing
    EXACTLY What To Do In Each
    Type Of Situation With Women

    Now I'm going to blow your mind...

    A woman ALWAYS knows what you're thinking.

    Women are approximately TEN TIMES better than men at reading body language. That's ten TIMES.

    I know, it might be hard to believe. But for example, if you're out on a date with a woman, and you want to kiss her, she knows it.

    And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly HOW to kiss her, and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help!

    And this goes for ALL aspects of women and dating...

    Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical... everything.

    If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up... and LOSE EVERYTHING.

    And you KNOW it.

    It is VITALLY important that you know EXACTLY how to go from one step to the next with a woman... from the first meeting, all the way to the bedroom.

    MISTAKE 10: Not Getting HELP

    This is the biggest mistake of all.

    This is the mistake that keeps most men from EVER having the kind of success with women that they truly want.

    I know, guys don't like to make themselves look weak or helpless. We don't like to ask for help.
    Thank you for what is the best advice on dating and mating I've ever read in one single article.

    Your info contradicts and erases so much of the total, utter bullsh-t self-help books, magazine articles, TV & radio talk shows have been pushing on men as to the best way to pick up women.

    Women read body language 10X better than men translates to "women's intution" (among other skills women possess)

    Have to be honest, I'm one of those idiot guys that were brought up and taught to treat women with 1000% respect, buy them flowers;Nearly everything you listed.

    Now I understand why women seem to "play games" and are totally out of their minds.

    Because as Bill Hicks said so well, "chicks dig jerks."

    And BOY have I seen sizzlin' women with some seriously ugly, mean, rotten, immoral/amoral and wanna be "tough guys"

    Still, money, looks and celebrity often bring women to those who possess it, but from what you wrote, most women like almost totally indifferent men.



    One hell of a great thread topic and very well stated
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    Still wondering why ladies have made no comments

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    How about mistake number 11: Reading advice columns that suggest you be something other than yourself. Stop playing games, be yourself and eventually you'll find someone who's a good fit for your personality.

    Some girls like guys who are open with their feelings. Be yourself and find the girl who will appreciate those qualities.
    1 Corinthians 13:1 "If I speak in the languages of men and of angels, but have not love, I am only a resounding gong or a clanging cymbal."

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    Oh, spare me that "nice guys always finish last" BS. It's so old. I know plenty of women who got sick of dating the jerks and married the NICE guy...and we're not talking about women who had no other options, they had PLENTY.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisy H
    Oh, spare me that "nice guys always finish last" BS. It's so old. I know plenty of women who got sick of dating the jerks and married the NICE guy...and we're not talking about women who had no other options, they had PLENTY.
    i have a confession to make , I did do better then my wife , she's a great kid , friend , smart , worker , home maker , & can beat me up...........BUT , & again a BIG BUT , 20 years ago , she for some reason "chose me" ? Why , I'll never know , but she's awesome............me on the other hand..........well , heck you've read enough of my posts to see I'm moody , narrow minded , stubborn , etc.
    Nothing gold can stay...............

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    Quote Originally Posted by winfield31
    i have a confession to make , I did do better then my wife , she's a great kid , friend , smart , worker , home maker , & can beat me up...........BUT , & again a BIG BUT , 20 years ago , she for some reason "chose me" ? Why , I'll never know , but she's awesome............me on the other hand..........well , heck you've read enough of my posts to see I'm moody , narrow minded , stubborn , etc.
    Nah, I don't get that from your posts at all. She chose the nice guy.

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    Quote Originally Posted by winfield31
    i have a confession to make , I did do better then my wife , she's a great kid , friend , smart , worker , home maker , & can beat me up...........BUT , & again a BIG BUT , 20 years ago , she for some reason "chose me" ? Why , I'll never know , but she's awesome............me on the other hand..........well , heck you've read enough of my posts to see I'm moody , narrow minded , stubborn , etc.

    i read this and had to re-read it....i thought you were saying she has a big butt.....she would have kicked yours!!!

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    Quote Originally Posted by bigpoppapuff
    i read this and had to re-read it....i thought you were saying she has a big butt.....she would have kicked yours!!!
    OMG if she heard that , she'd find you & me both bpp !! LOL !!
    Nothing gold can stay...............

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    Quote Originally Posted by Daisy H
    Nah, I don't get that from your posts at all. She chose the nice guy.
    Thank you Daisy , you're very sweet.........I know your husband got a great deal with you !!
    Nothing gold can stay...............

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    Quote Originally Posted by winfield31
    Thank you Daisy , you're very sweet.........I know your husband got a great deal with you !!
    I'll tell him you said so...some days I'm sure he wonders!

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    Chicks dig jerks? Maybe that's because among the pool of men there isn't anything else to choose from.

    Know any guys who aren't jerks? I haven't met one.

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    Quote Originally Posted by justKel
    Chicks dig jerks? Maybe that's because among the pool of men there isn't anything else to choose from.

    Know any guys who aren't jerks? I haven't met one.
    What a dumb statement to make about men; especially considering that you used to be one.

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    It seems like just yesterday..you were a part of me.. I used to stand so tall I used to be so strong... your arms around me tight ..everything felt so right..Unbreakable nothing could go wrong.

    Weve been too strong for too long...And I cant sleep without you..I will be faithful.. Im for real..and with us you will always know the deal.. Too hard to fake it.. nothing can replace it!
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