But you can't teach society to adapt to a child instead you have to find subtle ways that make it easier for the child to adapt without changing who the child or making them feel like they are defective. I was actually up late last night couldn't fall a sleep because I am worried about how my son will be socially in kindergarten. He wants to hug everyone he meets, I know it doesn't sound like a bad thing but I am worried about him socially with that. It's not that we want to change our children, we just don't want them to suffer in society. I was a child who was "different" and maybe part of my problem was that my parents wanted me to fit the mold and i couldn't, I don't want my son to have the social problems that i had growing up.