Allow me to tell you a bit about my husband whom we will call Ted for his privacy. When I am done please tell me what you think.
Ted is the kind of man that will NEVER admit to a child when he is wrong, and in most cases you have to find solid proof from many resources to proof him wrong before he will acknowledge it, and then he tells you to leave it alone after he fights with you about being right.
Ted sits on the couch and pretends he does so much, when he does nothing but sit on the couch watching TV.
Ted feels that women should do every thingÖ when I say every thing, I assure you I mean every thing, all the house work (Fine), all the yard work, cleaning the garage, raising the children, bathing himÖand on, and on, and on. He said men ONLY need to work and that a man should never do any thing more then work. He should be served hand and foot, and after dinner his feet should be rubbed. He should have absolutely NOTHING to do with raising a child, but I should raise them as he wishes.
Ted has absolutely nothing nice to say, every thing that comes out of his mouth is a direct insult toward something you did or you.
I fear every thing, their isnít much I donít fear, partly because my life isnít much. I know all the advice but when you fear it, even knowing itís right, itís hard to get past that. My biggest fear is loosing my house because I can not afford it, and every man interested in me simply donít make enough, not even remotely close to what Ted makes. This house is special to us, for reasons not completely relevant yet.
So I decided I would go to School (College) and Ted shot that down after only my 3rd day, and because some of my classes were 6pm-9pm the children were abused.
Often I wish Ted would make the decision him self and simply leave, but he wont because he wants citizenship.
He told me if I divorce him he is fighting with every thing he has because he donít want to give so much as a penny to me, he wants to walk away free and clear. I asked him to pay $800. A month for 2.5 years so I can go to School and finish He said absolutely not. $800. Covers my Mortgage. He wont divorce me, and I along with my children are suffering for it. I have called so many lawyers and cant find a price that suits me. If they said some thing like $300. Period, cool, but they say $300. - $700. And each court date is another amount.
Here is what I want. I want to get a lawyer to prepare the (Legal) papers for me on what I want, then come to my house when Ted is home (unexpected) and review it with Ted, and ask him to sign it, all the while reminding him it could be worse. Hopefully Ted would sign them, if not I would still have them. And ultimately file the papers with Court and get this divorce. But I donít have the money.
HELP me Please! What would you do?