For those of us about to deal with a dysfunctional family for the holidays, I just want to say that my thoiughts go out to each one of you.
I will be dealing with a nasty family myself tomorrow.
I want everyone to remember what the season is truly about and I wish that all of you will find the strength to not be hurt by what any rude relatives may say or may do.
Remember you have value in God's eyes no matter what.
Peace.
I'm just here to make people laugh. And to confuse people. Oh, and to irritate people.
Merry Christmas and good luck to you, Achbek. I'm heading to my in-laws; I will be drinking heavily.Originally Posted by Achbek1
I'm so glad my disfunctional family days are over (I know what you are going through because in the past they were bad for me). People died, relationships changes, etc. and now most everyone in my family is happy and functional. Being the unofficial head of the family now I don't tolerate disrespectful behavior and they know it. I've worked so hard to get things the way they are today and my goal is to keep it that way forever.
Don't worry Achbek, time changes things. Some day you will be the head of the family and you will be the one setting the example for everyone else. Remember even if your extended family doesn't respect you, we all do
Merry Christmas!
Merry Christmas Achbek
Remember no man or woman is a failure who has friends... Clarence said so!
So obviously you are a great success no matter what your family thinks..I find with certain relatives that I dislike the best way to deal with them is to smile and tell them I will pray for them ..it drives them nuts lol
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There's a few nasty ones in my extended family, too.
They don't stand a chance. They know better not to act up. They're no match. They'll get torn a new one if they even try.
That's the way it works where I come from.
Thank you all for your words of encouragement.
We stayed at my sister's house for the shortest amount of time. The ones who cause the most grief for me are my mother and my brother. I made sure that we left within a half an hour of the latter showing up. I think that leaving early was the best idea before nastly glances or rude words were exchanged. Or before my brother and mother started yelling because my brother wanted to start smoking in my sister's house even though myself and my three year old would not like that very much.
I know, I know. I feel like a putz because I'm a 32 year old woman and I still let them get to me... I have to remind myself that I am an ADULT now.
I hope all of you got through your holidays well and focused on the good.
I kind of like the week after Christmas the best. "All is calm."
January, as I have before mentioned, is becoming my favorite month. Things are just kind of dull and quiet, there are no parties or big events to attend, there are no major holidays... The stores have everything on clearance and you get to clean up your house... I like February too because the only major holidays or events are Valentine's Day and Lent.
I'm just here to make people laugh. And to confuse people. Oh, and to irritate people.
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I'm so glad my disfunctional family days are over (I know what you are going through because in the past they were bad for me). People died, relationships changes, etc. and now most everyone in my family is happy and functional. Being the unofficial head of the family now I don't tolerate disrespectful behavior and they know it. I've worked so hard to get things the way they are today and my goal is to keep it that way forever.
That is so true! There is no reason for that nonsense. If you have a problem with someone talk it out with that individual instead of taking the being an *SS hole route. There may be differences but agree that there are differences and then that is it or at the very least say that is it no more done with not seeing you anymore.
I have a unique story about my parent’s personal telephone directory and how that personal telephone directory shrank in content over time. Not because people were written off but because these people simply died. Every once and awhile there would be a new personal telephone directory with less and less content. It is amazing how many names disappeared and in such a short amount of time when you stopped and thought about it.
I take a lot from people but when it comes to businesses I am very short fused if they are in the wrong and they do not admit it. Lots of mistakes are made in business and many of them go unchecked unless you are the one who made the mistake then business is as smart as Rockefeller.
My family has a long history of not only short fuses and general bad behavior, they have long histories of alcoholism, mental abuse, denial, high school dropouts, crime, etc. The list is too long to mention.
My mother's mother was drunk every afternoon by 3 and her brother became a career criminal. My father, although I think that deep down he has a softer soul than my mother, has a ridiculously short fuse. He drinks. A lot. Sometimes he starts just after noon.
My brother is one with an even shorter fuse, is a high school dropout who has from what I can tell jumped from job to job, has been suicidal and has been into some kinds of drugs. He now lives with a woman who I am assuming is his meal ticket and my mother worships the two of them as a stellar couple.
They are all so far gone from reality that trying to have any kind of logical conversation is beyond the point. You can't try to rationalize with them and/or even try to make nice or make peace. The last time I tried to do that my mother accused me of being possessed by the devil and that I was the one who had the problem.
It's better to just step away and not get involved.
I'm just here to make people laugh. And to confuse people. Oh, and to irritate people.
My advise is to wear your mental space suit around them to protect yourself from their toxic atmosphere. Your best bet is to spend only the minimum amount of time around them as possible. In an earlier e-mail you said over Christmas you popped in for a half-hour and then left, this was probably a good way to handle the situation. Long enough to say Hi and acknowledge their existance but short enough to avoid the fights.
Achbek, I think you realize that they are sick people and nothing you do will change that. No one is more for family than me but a family that is causing harm to you is one that is best avoided. You certainly don't want your children exposed to the same things you were, do you?
Have you ever seen the movie Matilda? I bet you were as different from your parents as she was from hers.
Downstate is correct.
You only have to worry about what you say and do.
If someones says something mean to you, you have nothing to feel bad about.
If you say something mean to someone then you do.
That's very simple. Listen to me.
Thanks guys. My current hormonal state is making me more susceptible to any kind of stress.
I do have to remember that getting angry at them is like getting angry at a pile of rocks. They have no idea what they are doing.
I'm just here to make people laugh. And to confuse people. Oh, and to irritate people.
It's not a good idea to get angry, even if you think it's warranted.
It's no coincidence that mad means both angry and insane.
Next time someone gets mad/angry, observe how crazy they are.
very funny 300
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