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1) look for ways in the morning before school to get out energy. A mini trampoline is handy to have in the house. They have safety ones that fold up or blow up ones. Use a timer and have the child jump on it for 10 minutes before school.
2) is there an issues with aggression. Find appropriate ways to get that out, if the child is older use a punching bag have them train like a boxer. If the child is younger get one of those blow up punching things or blow up. Another thing to do is get bop its that fit on the hand have fight time with them.
3) Having trouble getting them to sit in the car. Try a fidget toy like a Kosh ball or just google the term fidget toy and you will come across some great things. Silly putty is another good thing to help them sit. Hand held video games work too, but a kid can get motion sickness from that in the car (depending on the child).
4) If they have issues with transitions, I highly recommend getting a timer to help. For example if you are having trouble getting them to sit at the dinner table, try setting a timer for 10 minutes and tell them they have to stay until it dings. I recommend a digital timer that they can have right near them. It will take the child a few days to get use to that system but once they are comfortable with the concept set the timer for a little longer, go for 12 minutes and eventually work your way up to 20 minutes. Usually if a child is sitting for 20 minutes and hasn't finished their dinner they will want to stay at the table until there food is gone.
pt2 if the timer doesn't work try a lap buddy or a balance disk for them to sit on. They may just need some input to help them sit. A weighted vest can work too.
5) Watch their diet and see what is in the food. You'd be surprised at what has caffine in it. Also the dyes in food can make kids hyper. It gives some kids a "high" like a drug.
6) HEAVY WORK!!!!!! I can not tell you enough the benefits of heavy work for any kid, let alone a hyper kid. Have them move the vacuum. Have them shovel snow. Have them carry a laundry basket. Have them push you around in a chair with wheels, kids love that one.
7) Messy play after dinner can help a child relax before bed. Play dough is good and the different toys that can go with play dough can double as heavy work. We have this burger playdough set and my son presses hard with it, it has a crank that he has to use his muscles for that makes play dough french fries.
8) Never underestimate aroma therapy. Lavender lotion at night makes a world of difference at bed time.
9) Music helps too. Find what music calms them. We listen to Mozart, Radio head and these cds call Rock away babies. The rockaway baby is rock music done as classical, we have a mix one of pink floyd and radio head. Obviously after school you want them to run around and get energy out, i highly recommend anything by Laurie Berkner! We also like Django Reinhardt. But I haven't come across one kid under 6 who doesn't just LOOOOOOOOOOOve the Laurie Berkner band.
10) Outside outside outside outside outside. If your child catches the bus, try to get them out just 10 minutes early so they can play in the snow for a little bit before they have to get to school.
****I know from first hand experience that raising a hyper child is a challenge but it can be fun. Keep a positive attitude and always explore new ways to get that energy out. Your attitude is everything and will make the difference in how your child behaves in life. It's exausting but if you have a positive attitude you will see it's a blessing in disguise***