Genoobie,
Of course there is no such thing as "absolutely safe"
Still, the point remains: people are voting with their feet on this issue. The first thing that many people in the city do when they have kids is to get them into suburban schools, either by actually moving there, or by "having an aunt" who lives there that the kid "stays with."
When I worked at Sweet Home Central School as a long-term sub once, I was amazed at how many of our students came from the city of Buffalo.
I don't blame them one bit.
As far as kids being able to be kids, I still maintain that the kids I work with every day in the city (they nearly all come from Buffalo's East Side) have been exposed since childhood to a level of violence, gang activity, and drugs that no 12-13 year old should face (let alone anyone else).
That's why we exist as a charter school, because Buffalo Public Schools are like warzones. The #1 reason (by FAR) that parents AND students put down on surverys as to why they are here is SAFETY. Our school is a place where they don't have to worry about being attacked every day. There are kids who are still here at 5pm, and we have to practically push them out the door.
While I am happy for our kids to have a safe haven here, I am equally sad for the kids who do not get that chance.
You might say the news overblows the violence in the city, and maybe it does to some degree.
To me, everything in life involves a degree of risk. As you said, driving involves risk. Personally, I'll take my chances out in the sticks once I have kids.
Some say that the mean streets "are real life," and I (along with coutnless others) are just trying to shelter my kids from "the realities" out there.
I say that there are MANY realities. Just because the city is more violent doesn't mean it is any more "real" than anywhere else. There are many ways to go about life.